Updated: Sep 8, 2018
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It still amazes me how important colors and styles are to most people. I remember once we found out Elo was a girl, the pink started rolling in. To be fair, not many knew about my extreme disgust for super girly things, but I was and still am confused as to why this was considered the norm. Blaine and I are SO blessed to have people that are extremely generous, and I will forever be grateful...but contrary to popular belief, girls don't HAVE to like pink. Lemme tell you how I feel about it:
Just Because She's A Girl...?
"Well, what if someone says 'he' instead of 'she'?"
Why should I care if a random stranger thinks my kid looks like a boy? It doesn't matter. I know she's a girl. Cool. Doesn't mean there's anything she can't do... 'Cept maybe write her name in the snow..oh well. It's fine.
There Are SO Many Colors
I meannn, why the box? Who Made These Rules?
As a society that's been tearing down stereotypes and labels, why is this still an issue? In some cases, I was made to feel wrong for disliking the color pink, big bows, ruffles, big lace or large amounts of glitter.
If I were to dress my Eloise in a bow larger than her head with ruffles and mixed patterns from head to toe, it would (in my opinion) feel like I was adding unnecessary ornaments to something (someone) that is already beautiful.
In the bible, God tells us NOT to focus on things external.
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 1 Peter 3:3-4
God calls us to live in things eternal and to not focus on the world or the flesh. When we choose to worry about vain things, our hearts focus on things of this world, and not Him. This is how I believe. I choose not to adorn my child, a pure gift from God, in ornamental, gaudy accessories.
I choose to let her beauty take spotlight without the addition of loud colors, excessive amounts of pink, tons of patterns, glitter and ruffles.
Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. For everything in the world-the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life-comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever. 1 John 2:15-17
This all stems from my love for simple things. My mother raised us to appreciate the little things and not to lust after what we don't have.
Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." Hebrews 13:15
Let me Clarify A Few Things...
I still like bows
I still like dresses
Polka-dots are cute
Minimal ruffles are acceptable
I still like most traditionally "girly things" what I have a small problem with is the categorization of these things. The same goes for boy styles and clothing...like, does EVERYTHING have to be sport related or blue? I could go on...but that might also be excessive. Haha!
Is it REALLY That Big A Deal?
I know this post might get a lot of flack for quoting the bible, or even existing at all. Ha! My issues with pink + girly things goes beyond simply not liking them, and I will never pass up an opportunity to quote scripture or talk about God!
I do NOT mean to spread hate for anyone that loves SUPER girly things, and I would NEVER shame another mom for her personal style. We are all different and like different things, and this is just the way I choose to live my life!
So the next time you see a baby girl dressed in blue or not wearing a bow, please hesitate before you impose your own opinions on them. This goes both ways! If you're someone like me, and is not a fan of pink, you don't HAVE to speak your mind about it!
"Listen, humans, in every situation we face, we get to make a decision on whether we want to add hurt, or add good. And since there's already enough hurt in this world, why don't you be the type of human who adds good?"
Are you a mom that likes to go against "the norm"? What are your thoughts?
This post is meant to serve as an answer for those that wonder why I have a problem with "normal" baby girl attire. It's totally okay if you don't 100% agree with me, or even like this sort of content. PLEASE feel free to comment on what you'd like to see next.
-- Ashley ♡